Lately boys I’ve thought a lot about the way that I treat people. To be honest, I felt like I wasn’t treating some loved ones as good as I should.
Why? I’m not totally sure but I suppose you just start doing something and unconsciously carry it on. It’s easy to get caught up in what’s going on in your own world, without considering how others are feeling and what exactly is happening for them too. Since thinking about this more, I have made a conscious effort to just be nicer. To treat these people with more respect. I tend to be quite impatient and a bit of a control freak so often I struggle with things not being done ‘my way’ and in ‘my time’. I’m working on it, so I’ve needed to learn to be more tolerant. Not everything has to be done my way! It’s ok for others to do things their way too. Really, as long as the outcome is the same, why should it matter? It shouldn’t boys. It’s not really a big deal.
Lately, we were given a shock reminder of valuing people. Your cousin Te Paea was in an accident and we could have very easily lost her. It was a huge relief that she came out of it fine. One of my early thoughts was that I just wanted to give her a big hug and hold her. This feeling of losing someone isn’t something foreign to me. We lost our Dad (your Poppa) when I was only 18. I remember the physical feeling like being winded. The pain was immense. I can remember the most minute details from that day. It was the hardest time of my life to lose Dad so suddenly.
It is these moments in your life boys that you realise how important people are. We need to appreciate them while they are here because you never know what might happen and when you may lose them. When they are around, talk to them. Be actively interested in their lives. Spend time together. Make memories.
Rakeiora I love that you do this now. Whenever we have family or friends come to visit or stay, you maximise them being here to the fullest! I hope this lasts. It’s awesome how you want to bring people into your world. It’s really special the way you make a connection and are able to draw people in.
Boys be sure to take time to thank people for what they do for you, whether it’s a gift or spending time. Always acknowledge this boys and don’t take things for granted. Appreciate the people in your life – you never know how long you have with them.