Appreciate the people in your life

Lately boys I’ve thought a lot about the way that I treat people.  To be honest, I felt like I wasn’t treating some loved ones as good as I should.

Haeata and Nane

Why?  I’m not totally sure but I suppose you just start doing something and unconsciously carry it on.  It’s easy to get caught up in what’s going on in your own world, without considering how others are feeling and what exactly is happening for them too.  Since thinking about this more, I have made a conscious effort to just be nicer.  To treat these people with more respect.  I tend to be quite impatient and a bit of a control freak so often I struggle with things not being done ‘my way’ and in ‘my time’.  I’m working on it, so I’ve needed to learn to be more tolerant.  Not everything has to be done my way!  It’s ok for others to do things their way too.  Really, as long as the outcome is the same, why should it matter?  It shouldn’t boys.  It’s not really a big deal.

Te Paea with Haeata

Lately, we were given a shock reminder of valuing people.  Your cousin Te Paea was in an accident and we could have very easily lost her.  It was a huge relief that she came out of it fine.  One of my early thoughts was that I just wanted to give her a big hug and hold her.  This feeling of losing someone isn’t something foreign to me.  We lost our Dad (your Poppa) when I was only 18.  I remember the physical feeling like being winded.  The pain was immense.  I can remember the most minute details from that day.  It was the hardest time of my life to lose Dad so suddenly.

Dad and I when I was born

It is these moments in your life boys that you realise how important people are.  We need to appreciate them while they are here because you never know what might happen and when you may lose them.  When they are around, talk to them.  Be actively interested in their lives.  Spend time together.  Make memories.

Rakeiora I love that you do this now.  Whenever we have family or friends come to visit or stay, you maximise them being here to the fullest!  I hope this lasts.  It’s awesome how you want to bring people into your world.  It’s really special the way you make a connection and are able to draw people in.

Rakeiora on his first birthday

Boys be sure to take time to thank people for what they do for you, whether it’s a gift or spending time.  Always acknowledge this boys and don’t take things for granted.  Appreciate the people in your life – you never know how long you have with them.

Mama x


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  1. Such a great message to teach your boys. People really are the most important, and it’s easy to get caught up in your own, busy life sometimes. I also have to remind myself to no to try and control every situation. If it’s not my way, that’s ok! Great article ❤️

  2. I have a tendency to get so overwhelmed with everything else that I have going on that I tend to let that come through in how I respond to others, especially those I love. This is such an important reminder to us all. Thank you!

  3. This isn’t such an important thing to teach the young ones. I myself have to stop and slow down often when it comes to how I treat people. I’m also impatient and like to be in control so I have to remember to be considerate of friends and family around me. I have to remember that I’m setting an example for my toddler. He learns from my words and actions and I want him to always remember to respect and appreciate our loved ones.

  4. A very true message. We all should stop and consider our treatment of others more often and work on showing love in a greater way. It’s just an awesome way to improve as a person. Sometimes the best reward is from loving and doing for another. You sound like a great mom.

    … But the greatest of these is LOVE. (1 Cor 13:13)



  5. Youre an incredible mom… feeling jealous for your boys hahaits very truth than we have to appreciate others because they can hear us after they’re gone…

  6. I love this message. It’s so easy to get caught up in this busy mama life and forget to be nice and appreciative of the little things that matter. Some days we need to just remember to snap out of it and be kind because you never know what life will bring

  7. Such a lovely post and something we don’t do often enough when life is busy. People can be taken away so quickly it is so important to value and appreciate family. Thanks for making me thing about it too. xx

  8. This is beautiful. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our daily lives that we forget about what really matters. What a great lesson to pass on to your babies. I’m sorry for the loss of your dad. I lost my mom when I was 20 and I know how tough it is. I have no doubt that your dad is watching over you and your family. <3 xo

  9. Great thing to teach your boys. I am definitely am impatient person, trying to work on that. And just calling people. I rely heavily on my blog to keep people up to date in my life but really I need to make more phone calls. I live too far from home and worry about letting too much time pass.

  10. Great reminder! Sometimes we treat the people we love the most the worst. I agree that it’s important to be more conscious about how we treat and speak to others. Thanks for the post!

  11. This is such a great message to your boys and a good reminder to all of us. What a sweet topic and great blog idea! So beautiful!

  12. This is such a sweet post and important message. I remember losing my grandma back in high school and it was so heartbreaking. Thinking about how my daughter will never know her great grandma now saddens me. I wish I had made more of an effort to travel and see them more often.

  13. Such a great reminder and something that my son does well too. I can definitely learn from him and this post to be ever more intentional about it myself.

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